That Terrifying Drowning Sensation: When the big deal you’ve been forecasting for 6 months has been deferred and you’re short of quota; your best team member just quit, conversations with your spouse have degraded to grunts and hand signals; sleep deprivation is a constant companion, and now you’re trying to find the bank card for the line of credit that was only going to be used for business emergencies because… it is an emergency. What now?
Drop the Ego and the Denial: Ask for help. If you don’t know it, the people in your life already know things are unraveling and having tough times… they’re just not telling you. Privately share challenges with a select few within your inner circle of professional trusted advisors or a friend. Quite often the “problem” is not the problem. How we see the problem is the problem and a remedy may not be as complex as initially perceived. Sometimes we need others to believe in the best of us, when we can’t see it.
Relax: Stop flailing about and begin conserving your personal energy. Take your rest as seriously as you take your work. It may sound counter-intuitive, but it may be appropriate to relax and float. To regain perspective, rest your body, meditate, reconfirm your purpose, and guard your self-talk. Is your “Why” (your reason for doing what you do) big enough to keep you motivated to persist in a sea of issues that threaten to drown you?
Sailors Get Wet: Entrepreneurs, business owners, and business development sales professionals understand that risk is inherent to their profession and sometimes the waves of fear, uncertainty and doubt can wash across our vision, throw us into previously unknown waters, and disorient us. Mentally prepare for the challenge. The alternative is to waive control over the time, IP, and equity in your life by giving it to an employer as a W-2 employee. What’s better? There’s no right answer. You decide.
Prayer & Meditation: What do you do in your toughest moments? Perhaps we can take a lesson from a very old book which says: “Consider it pure joy my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the resting of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:24 (NIV)
Chris Bell 3rd